I think it is easy for us recovery folks to feel a little lost at this time of year, in the hiatus between Christmas and New Year. either we have managed to stick to our sober guns, and are feeling consequently proud but a little shattered, to be honest, or we haven’t done so, and are suffering the subsequent pangs. either way it can be hard to remember to look after ourselves so we can work out where we need to go next.
I have known of the work of Kristen Neff for some time, in particular her TED talk on self-compassion. in fact I’m quite surprised that I don’t seem to have mentioned her on the blog before.
if, for whatever reason, you are feeling a little battered right now, you might like to check out her self-compassion exercises and free guided meditations which are available on her website here. here are some thoughts from her website which touched me:
‘Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. Self-compassionate people recognize that being imperfect, failing, and experiencing life difficulties is inevitable, so they tend to be gentle with themselves when confronted with painful experiences rather than getting angry when life falls short of set ideals. People cannot always be or get exactly what they want. When this reality is denied or fought against suffering increases in the form of stress, frustration and self-criticism. When this reality is accepted with sympathy and kindness, greater emotional equanimity is experienced.’
I definitely have scope to become more warm, understanding and gentle with myself…
here’s today’s recipe. it’s from Mark’s Bar at Hix, Soho. I won’t link to the website as it’s very much a boozy one! but this is their recipe: ‘lemon sherbert with chilled green tea, smacked mint (?!) a touch of orange and spiced with nutmeg’. this is what I did:
- made 250ml peppermint tea with a teabag. cooled to room temperature then removed teabag and chilled in fridge.
- placed tea into blender goblet with 80g of lemon sorbet, a few mint leaves, a splosh of orange juice and a good grating of fresh nutmeg.
- whizz and taste to see if you need more nutmeg or maybe a little orange-blossom honey? mmmm.
the nutmeg contributed an interesting warmth and spiciness to an otherwise light and zingy drink. may you have warmth towards yourself as well as to others around you as we move towards the new year to come…. Prim xx